In any case, in the end, I’ve learned to work through and solve my own problems. This makes you stronger and cleverer. My sex drive seems to have intermittent power surges. The trick for me is learning how to channel it. If this were known about me, I’d have politicians and priests banging down my door begging me to teach them.

Hang in there. Google “Objectum Sexuality”. We have our own website.

It was nice to find out that there really were others like me. I am in the closet with my OS love too…only those who know me very well know about it. (I have actually been “involved” with at least one of the structures mentioned in the stories.)

I also have Asperger Syndrome, like some of the women described. (That is another thing I have had to figure out on my own, after years of mostly fruitless therapy with people who were clueless about it.)

Unlike some of these OS women, my life has not been such a happy one, however, as I could never figure out why, or accept the fact, that I just am not that sexually attracted to human beings. The solution seemed to be to just let my sexual drive dwindle and be grateful that I had an early menopause, which has taken much of the edge off and made things more peaceful. It’s hard to focus on one’s work while at the same time being sexually attracted to the workplace, for example.

Anyhow, I appreciate the comments of those who argue for empathy and compassion as opposed to those who want to throw stones at people whose mental and sexual life might be different from theirs.

IMHO, it is best for government to stay out of everyone’s bedrooms. Marriage should be de-recognized by the state. This would give the term “marriage” back to the people and groups to whom it means the most. Contract law should be sufficient to handle the details for any long-term domestic partners (whether or not there is any sort of romantic relationship) without being discriminatory. Tax law, for example, gives preferential treatment to a husband and wife with two kids, while hurting two single sisters living together with one of the sister’s two kids. And of course, a legal single like myself faces a lifetime of hosing, paying higher taxes while having only one earner instead of two to cover all household expenses.

What you are really confused about is calling the hypothetical man who marries his boat “clearly mentally ill”. There was a time, not too long ago, that professional psychiatrists would label homosexuals as “clearly mentally ill”. Science has advanced a bit since those days. Let’s take advantage of it. You are worried about “public outcry” over one sexual orientation, and not even considering the pain of public ridicule for another.

Most of us who are OS are not looking for a book deal or an appearance on Oprah, nor do we publicly “marry” our “significant others”. I, personally, am in the closet (I do have a sense of humor, but no jokes here..) save for an inner circle of friends and close co-workers. Interestingly enough, my longest-term friends are guys who started out with conventional male ideas about me and eventually learned I had so much more to offer them instead of a roll in the sack.

As for “regrets” about letting our child-bearing years pass by, I personally have never had any interest in bearing children. Open any newspaper and you’ll find examples of women who should have had the courage to admit to themselves that bearing children wasn’t for them. I am a structural engineering student at a local university, and say my job will be to create the buildings. Let everyone else fill them. As for others, sexual orientation is not a “phase” one gets through. Adult OS women will either have to accept the infertility that comes with their orientation or find a way around it, like lesbians who visit sperm donors or gays who hire surrogate mothers.

Above all, please, please, spare us the androcentric sex-toy type fantasy images. We can do without those.